Re; Money and Susan--some insight

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Mar 25, 2008 at 19:01

hi there, and welcome!

1) Why don't Moroccan men date women from their own culture? For one thing, nearly 2/3 of Moroccans are men and when you factor in polygamous marriages, it resounds even more.

and here in the West, we have more women (about 10-15 million more) than men. This trend is going to continue because environmental factors are increasing the female birthrate. So, it's a numbers game and terms of political and ideological expansion, Muslims hold a definite advantage because when two people of different cultures marry, most often it's the culture of the man that "prevails", if you will. Even the most ardent, outspoken feminists give way to this. They'll never admit it, but if you look carefully at the EU especially, their feminists are silent when it comes to the growth of Islam.

I'm not saying that women are weak and there are people even on here who date Muslims and remain Christian or don't convert, but overall the statistics cannot be denied. You may have noticed, but this is precisely why many Muslims will get angry when a Muslim woman dates a Western man.

Also, some of the men will date outside the culture to get a woman to convert to Islam and raise her children as Muslims. he thinks he is doing Islam a favor for doing so.

And of course, and perhaps most common is the cultural attraction. This is a really poor criterion for dating someone, because studies over and of the last 40 years have shown that intercultural dating is a lot more talk than walking the walk. In fact, here in the US, what one study found was that most interracial dating during the civil rights era was done just to show everyone how tolerant the couple was.
For one thing, most international relationships fail. I'm talking across ethnic and gender lines, and believe me, it's the same basic story: It's a scam, or in the VERY rare ones where it is geniune, the initial attraction that every relationship has wears down over time and the real differences emerge, and one person tries to change the other. This happens because the couple doesn't date enough or go together in person.

2) Why not eharmony?

I actually haven't used the site, and I've heard the commericals on the radio about how they "screen" profiles. Unless they track IP addresses, the screening is pretty much useless to anyone on this board. See, what they will catch are weakly written profiles by WOMEN (or men who stole women's pictures, more accurately) looking for MEN who are have bad English, and you'd be surprised at how little effort is gone into conning men as opposed to women. I cannot repeat on here often enough that most men involved in these on-line messes don't even leave the country before sending the dough.

3) Money

I wouldn't even advise sending money to someone domestically. I've seen it all with money: Family members or friends loaning it in good faith to these on-line scams.

Just NEVER EVER send money. You'll never see it again. I could tally up my own experiences and all the situations with money and what you would see is a 100% relationship (family, friend, romantic) fail rate. Meaning, using the idea that you have a relationship with a person that they will pay you back happens ZERO percent of the time. And I don't mean borrowing 5 bucks for a movie, I'm talking thousands of dollars.

I dated a woman I met on-line once who lived an hour away from me. She stole an estimated $5000 from me. I was warned left and right about her, and if nothing else, I figured I could take her to court, but that didn't really pan either because it would be some time before the court would garnish her wages.

THE ONLY time I would ever enter a finanical agreement with someone is through a real-life bank with actual legal contracts.

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