To Susan

Submitted by S (United States), Mar 26, 2008 at 12:16

Susan,

you are not going to listen to anyone so go right ahead and follow your heart. However, if you think 20 years doesn't make a difference in terms of age, keep on dreaming. His family appears cordial to you because they want him to come to the U.S, with the ultimate goal being American Citizenship.

Once he becomes a citizen, his mother has plans for him; 1. marry a Muslim woman who must be a virgin (if you want to know how a woman proves that she is a virgin, purchase a book on the culture and read about marriage customs; 2. he must have children; 3. Once he becomes a citizen, he is "the man" and he can then bring his brothers, sisters, cousins, etc to the U.S.

In the meantime, you have been robbed of whatever finances you have and he will divorce you and lie to the authorities that you married him only so he can get his "papers" in order (he just might tell the authorities that he paid you to marry him. Speaking of money, do you know that Moroccan Men save their money for one thing and that is simply to go home and spend about $10,000 to marry a Muslimiyah Virgin.

Moroc is a country where the average person earns $20 a month but a man must pay a "bride price"; pay for the henna party; pay for the clothes; food; whatever; pay for a couple women to accompany the bride during the ceremony and teach her about marriage responsibilities. These men do not know the definition of "love". They do not marry for "love". They marry for procreation only. If you don't think they are scam artists, fine but, sister, you and the other women who spend their hard earned money for airline tickets, iimmigration fees, etc will learn the hard way. Before I give a man 1 cent, I will live by myself and take a book to bed every night.

Who in God's name wants a man who is poor, abusive, and raised to believe that women are nothing but the property of a man? The age difference between you and this man is a topic of conversation each day in his house. The family is laughing while their son has the nerve to call a woman on her job and ask for money. Guess what he needs the money for? Maybe for the services of a prostitute. Maybe to pay the internet cafe so he can scam you and God knows how many other women.

Would you allow some western man to scam you? Of course you wouldn't. Why this man? In Islam, it is forbidden for men to ask women for money unless the woman is his wife. Why would you work all day and then give your money to a man who is using it for his own comforts. I bet you he doesn't go to the market and buy food for his family with the money.

When others respond to the postings here, many of the women become defensive. They tend not to realize that many Americans as well as women from other countries have ancestors that came from Muslim countries. They tend not to accept that we understand the culture and we know more about the religion than many so-called practicing Muslims know today. Why? Because we read books. We have read the Qu'ran. We are not stupid. We do, however, get a bad attitude when we see women allow themselves to be taken advantage of by worthless men.

The only thing left to say is that as a child, one of the many teachings of my grandmothers was "A hard head makes for a soft behind". Susan, I wish you well and I hope that when you fall, the landing is soft.

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