Dear Dana:

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Mar 26, 2008 at 23:03

Thanks for coming on here and sharing!

Ok, so you're attracted to Arabic men. I can understand that. A lot of the stories I've read here on pipes show that they are very sweet and romantic to start out with, and believe me, that's not as easy to get from Western men these days, but there are nice guys out there.

I don't if you're meeting these men on-line or not, but if you are, that alone is a gigantic indication as to why things aren't working out. I cannot say enough that most of these relationships fail in the worst ways. The other red flag: Is if they are younger than you are. I know that probably sounds unfair, but there is also a growing trend of men who have flings with much older women.

The one thing you must understand about Arabic men from a cultural point of view, is that many of them simply DO NOT respect Western women. A lot of it has to do with Arabic and Muslim media, where prominent sheiks tell populations of Muslims that Western women are whores, sluts, marry animals, ect. This influence is getting worse, because in Muslim countries population growth is high, and as you might expect, illiteracy is growing too. And religion is important, so more and more Muslim men are exposed to this nonsense.

Also, dating to some Muslims is forbidden, but in sheer irony, many of them don't have problems with a month-long fling.

I've even read an interview once of a convicted Arabic rapist in Sweden, and he said that he raped Swedish (I will point out that Muslim women who don't wear the veil or convert to another religion are just as likely to be targeted) women because they probably have been screwed before. When asked if he would marry one, he said, he would marry, but only a woman from his own culture, who is most certainly a virgin.

While not all Arabic men are this extreme, to some degree many of them are influenced by this. I can't say if that happened to you or not, but it's something to be aware of.

Regarding attraction, I would just you're not alone in having a preference for dating Arabic men. I know plenty of white guys who love Asian women above all else and the list goes on and on and on. But what I would say is that don't be afraid to broaden your horizons and don't let fear stop you. You're a decent, successful person, and I think you deserve some happiness, but you're probably going to have to take a chance or two and date someone that doesn't make you fall out of your chair the second he walks by.

I can understand why you are attracted to men of a different culture, but relationships based on that are not going to last long. I think it's important to find someone you can connect with on several different levels besides the fact the both of you are attracted to people of different cultures.

I don't know of a book out there that will give you the pros and cons of dating an Arabic man, but I know you said you seem to attract all the bad boys, so I would recommend reading:

Master Dating: How to Meet & Attract Quality Men

This is a book by Felicia Rose Adler, and it's 1999, so it's pretty recent.

I wish you the best of luck Dana!

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