Hi Leesa

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Mar 28, 2008 at 00:19

Well, then I was obviously WAY off about you and must ask for pardon on that. Serves me right for being obtuse. It seems I've gotten a little carried away on this thread, much to the detriment of everyone.

And I am glad that you've shared a little about your story on here.

Yeah, the whole thing with money just isn't good. It usually never is, and I've reached a point where I wouldn't borrow even to family, and borrow isn't the right word. These days, it's giving.

It's pretty brazen of people to ask for your money, I think.

I sympathsize with your situation, and I hope you do get to the bottom of this, but my concern is that when you do decide this isn't right, you'll do it FIRMLY, because chances are, he'll throw the whole book at you with anger, relentless crying and all kinds of justifications in order to guilt you into coming back. The thing about dating scams that makes them different from other money is scams is your partner, male or female isn't afraid to confront you. After all, they have nothing to lose and can't be punished.

Equally as important is time. I know you've said that hope just keeps on ticking away, and that's what it was like for me too. It's a really nasty thing to feel torn like that, and I was finding all kinds of ways to see if there were some around it. As I spent the better part of a year doing it, it all came crashing down when her parents told me she was with another man.

I went through this with my woman after I questioned the validity of our relationship, and she did everything from kick and scream to push me to threaten suicide. The thing was, it was all a rouse to keep around so she could dig deep into my wallet. And I'm ashamed to it, but she actually ended up leaving me for another man. Thing was I couldn't bring myself to do it.

If there is one I have learned, it's that on-line relationships when ended still hurt. It's hardly fair, but it still is a break-up.

I REALLY wish there were an easy to help you out and make it easy. My experience with that woman was the first internet-distance relationship I had had, while it didn't stop me from ruling out on-line relationships at the time, what it did do for me is when I dated someone else I had previously met on-line, I would end it at the first sign of trickery, no questions asked, and I never looked back.

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