Finally someone who is making SENSE!.

Submitted by Melissa A. Stergiou (Canada), Mar 29, 2008 at 03:58

Hello! :).i read what you had to say Selen,and it all came together in my young mind, i also really dont understand why these women are labeling only one group of men,sure mabye that is their experience..but i honestly believe you are sooo right ,its wrong to say that all turkish guys are no good,that is just pure prejudice because you cant judge an entire race of people based on one bad apple you know?

i have personally met loads of guys from different cultural backgrounds,and let me tell you something,i dont see any particular behavioral or personality patterns in any one culture!!-i guess thats because every man is different..i also think that its very wrong to say that men of a particular religion are all the same,i mean,not everybody is even religious!-i stumbled upon this site because i was looking up information on turkish culture (im 1/4 turk), and i opened this page and i see all this slander about how moroccan/turkish/arab men who only want green cards,visas and money.it wouldnt bother me if it was about foreigners in general,as in a broad mix of different cultures, religions, and so forth,but i find myself kind of offended by the fact that lots of these women dont do their research,dont keep their eyes open,and then because they cant understand what they did wrong themselves,they naturally look for someone or something to blame it on.

in this case its the taboo subject of religion,so they unwittingly start bashing all islamic men because they were stupid enough to marry some dude they met online,like,3-6 months after they meet him..it really doesnt help open minded girls like myself who dont see religion as a factor in a relationship,infact,when you look at how relationships begin in the first place,its about chemistry,mutual attraction and compatability..and a big part of compatability is communication that is clear and real. because if you love somebody,it wouldnt matter what religion they are,infact love is about accepting someone as they are,and peoples beliefs can sometimes be a big part of who they are,so that means accepting their beliefs even if you dont agree with some stuff-hey, no one said keeping a relationship together was easy,sure there will be disagreements and sacrifice,and mabye even compromise..but thats what love is about,its taking a chance,giving someone a chance..its about holding eachothers hands while walking in the storm.now i realize why religion is so taboo,because it can either bring people together in blissful harmony,or cause violent wars that leave children motherless and entire families homeless and starving-its a very bi-polar phenomenon,it can build walls or build bridges..and it breaks my romantic, teenaged heart to see relationships fail because of a disagreement on religion,when there is only one God or Allah....and ALL religions point to god....we are all equal in his eyes,he loves us all and we are ALL his children,and i wish we could all love instead of fight..we should evaluate ourselves and analyze our own actions and mistakes before judging others,or their beliefs..and making false statements that have no actual or valid facts to back it all up.

-Melissa A. Stergiou,16, CAN.

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