Susan

Submitted by hmmm (United States), Mar 31, 2008 at 15:48

Hi Susan,

I think you and I are going through a lot of the same things. The part where he doesn't want you to move there raises huge red flags for me. It sounds like his goal is to come here. Mine wants to come here on a work visa, which I am helping with, also red flags...

If you think your guy is talking to other women and receiving money from there, you are probably right. Mine has always told me "I talk only to you", but my feelings and doubts are there for a reason. Little things all the time.......After reading on this site and a marriage site, I have come to the conclusion that probably 5% of these men are for real and that's how many relationships work out. Not very good odds. I'm trying to make the decision on what to do in my life, chances are I won't be with him much longer, my intuitions are taking over.

Some things to think about: If you get married in Morocco, the financial part doesn't end there....once he gets to the states there are many more steps in the process and they all cost. Also, by sponsoring him you will be responsible for him financially for 10 years. That's a long time if things don't work out.

You need to do what you feel is right for you, and I need to as well, but I just wanted to give you some things to ponder. By the way I also have a couple posts on here as leesa.

Take care.:)

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