Hi Leesa

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Mar 31, 2008 at 21:19

Thanks for the caring and understanding. Yes, I was in a bit of a nasty rut there for a while with a woman, and at the time I felt like I was the only this happened to, but in reality, I soon found out it was more common for that to happen to people in on-line relationships than it was for them to succeed.

But, I can confidently say that I'm over it, and I do appreciate the sensitivity.

Hopefully, I can help minimize the mistakes for others as much as possible. Sadly, some folks will have to learn the hard way, but I'm just happy to help in any way I can.

One comment about the webcam: The same woman you've seen me talk about had one too. And was it nice? Of course! It meant I could talk to her.

BUT the real kicker was after a year and a half, she was using it to have cybersex with other men. And she wouldn't even do that with me, her boyfriend. I never really pushed for it or anything like that, but it just goes to show how deceitful it can be.

The news about the yahoo ID, well, men can and will be persistant, but so will someone who just wants something temporary from you. In fact, when I was talking to women on--line, I would find they would message me on yahoo at odd hours of the night just to make sure I was still in existence. Also, they would continously pepper me with all sorts of cute profile and picture comments.

I also noticed that many of the scammers sought me out first, and were not bashful about sending me their yahoo ID. Now, because I was a guy, I find this strange, because most women value thier privacy, and even if they are desperate, do not want to be seen as so. This was a dead giveaway everytime.

The idea behind that is really not the different with women on here. See, scammers pretty much know that many people who do on-line dating do so as more or less a last resort. On here, it has come to my attention that many women have been married or in very committment relationships previously, and the on-line dating is done as a perhaps a last resort. I also noticed this on many dating profiles, where the person indicates they are sick of the bar scene or give a shout out ARE THERE ANY REAL MEN LEFT?

Their plan is very sneaky, almost like a car-salesman type sneaky, because they talk to several people at once hoping to catch someone who is desperate, unaware, wants to get their $25 a month worth on the site, and hasn't had a lot of luck and will say "well, ok, I may as well talk to them, I've got nothing to lose."

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