To SLS

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Apr 2, 2008 at 19:11

Ok,

Well, I do not recommend going, but traveler's checks are a good idea. Just make sure there's a bank there that will cash them. Some foreign banks aren't taking anymore US dollars for economic reasons. And it's never a good idea to carry too much cash with you, and I have a feeling that your greatest chance at getting robbed may be from the man you are seeing.

From your most recent post, I understand that you want to do this for better or worse. But 2 days, SLS? Doesn't that seem kind of soon and short to see if he's for real? Do you really want to MARRY someone you don't trust? And if you did tell him you're getting advice, well' he's going to more careful.

I honestly don't think this is for real. Whether you do go or not, ask yourself if you had a man in real life who did this, would you seriously put up with all these inconsistenices? I know I wouldn't with a woman. Whenever a person is inconsistent, it means they have something to hide.

I can understand that this is hard for you, but not every guy is looking for a greencard. Some people just want money. When the dating scams are geared towards men, a lot of times to get money out of them all they need is a few model-like pictures and some sob story. It would not surprise me at all if some the men that women on here date have scammed men using those tactics.

I think that you at least are willing to concede that this is scam, and that alone puts you ahead of a lot of people in this game, so give yourself credit, but if you do go, my chief concern is: Are you going to be able to FIRMLY walk away from this. Because if you take that route, be prepared for a bunch of flowers, crying, and kinds of untrue sob stories.

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