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Submitted by Marian Hayes (United Kingdom), Apr 3, 2008 at 11:14

Hello L,

i am so sorry about your circumstances and being in love with the"wrong' man. I know how difficult it is to stop giving and taking them back when things go wrong for them.I also have been through a rough ordeal with my Moroccan man .he is in Morocco and i am in England ,but he has asked me for money more than once the last amount was for 6000,000 sterling pounds ,a lot of money but i won't give him any .

My parents brought us girls up from little children to never give a man money ,My Mother always said "a man who asks a woman for money is no good". i thank my parents for bringing me up that way now as it has saved me from a lot of heartache, but like you i love my Moroccan so very much and he wants to marry me even to the point of us both living in a muslim country, that has proved to me that he is'nt marrying me for a visa to Britain.

We have our "up's "and "downs' with arguments as he promises to be on msn at a certain time and does'nt appear until late the following night ,but i am so confused to whether i should marry this man .He says that he will change but i can't believe that someone can just change ,Living in a different country and having me is'nt going to change him .

when someone changes it has to be that the person themselves want to change within themselves regardless of where they are or who they are with.What is it about your man that the friend doctors don't like as you say that your friends don't want him around anymore? I am so sorry that you have only lost your husband within the last three years ,it must be really hard for you,

If you think about the happy times that you had with your husband and keep the memories flowing of the way he loved you it may in time help you to overcome the love that you have for your current man.Who is to say L in time you may look at your Moroccan with different" eyes "I wish you well .

Take care and once again thank you for the reply.Please keep in touch .

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