I NEED YOUR OPINION and ADVICE....................PLEASE

Submitted by Life is Beautiful (Ireland), Apr 5, 2008 at 06:31

Dear all,

I have wrote my story about my life regarding my 7 years relationship with this muslim man.We are in love again and everything is going pretty much well.I would like to ask you as you are expert in marriages as some of you are married already and you have children.Should I go ahead and have one and married by Civil Wedding my man. We are living together...and the fact that I am 35 and I have no babies is making me very stressed and I want to be completed as a woman and I want one child at least.If I will leave it for longer I think that I will not be able to have any.

I love this man but from my story you can see in previous articles I faced a lot of problems with him.Now we are like one and the only problem that I have is the religion of my children that has to be Muslim 100% as this is the only rule that he is putting on me.He does not want me to convert but he wants his babies to have his religion and I know everything behind as I have read a lot and apart from that I know muslims for the last 7 years and I know them pretty much inside out.

I was thinking to leave UK to go back to Italy as I am living in UK now and I am Italian.I love him and I cannot see myself now to live back Home and Start from the Beginning my life again and find another man and all these because I have strong feelings for the speicific one.We love eachother we spent nearly every day together...he has changed as he is growing and he is more mature..

He is making plans with me and he wants to introduce me to his family only with one rule to promise to him that our babies will have his religion.I am frightened but at the same time I think that I can grow my children with my european open mind ideas about life and apart from that if we will continue to live in UK my children will be able to adopt the european culture and mentality.My life is written in my previous articles please read all my story and please let me know how I risk my happiness and my life by accepting this kind of comprimise.I am not religion my self..I mean I believe but with my own way and ideas.I am not fanatic Christian at all but I would never convert to any religion....SHould I go ahead...and do it...or it is crazy to say YES to Muslim Children..

this is the main reason that I keep this relationhsip static...and we do not move on in other things in life like bying a house or making official this relationship What are the fears and the risks that I take.As you have experience because you are married some of you please give me some advices....if I am crazy to do it or not.There is love...we have good jobs...he is good to me lately...I am stressed with my age...because if I will leave the time to pass by I will end up 40 or 45 without be able to make children and apart from that...I will be so insecure....to start my life from scratch in Italy because my strenghts become less and less year by year.

If I was 25 I would enjoy this open kind of relationship without tomorrow..Now I am ready to settle down and the only person that I can dream at the moment is him because this is the person that I am sleeping with him,eating with him,socialize with him and have a 7 years relationship with him with very bad but many good things and my circle of friends has accept him like italian.

I am very confused but my time is running and I have to take an action.Should I stay in UK with him or should I go back to Italy and start a new FRESH beginning without rules...I am not the typical person since child to follow rules especially rules of LOVE...because...this rule is against my principles of life and ideas.I suggested him our children to choose in the age of 18 what they want to believe...he said NOT and it is obvious....from Muslim man what else you would expect...very few are against their system and this system of GOD who...is everywhere....

I am so opposite..I have grown in an open mind family without WALLS and MUST.I grew up with principles of life and to love people despite religion and colour...and now my heart is bleeding..because as long as I will be in UK I will be with him...I cannot see romantically any other man...I love him...and he will not let me go easily to another man s hug as long as I am in UK.If I would go back to Italy he would leave me alone I guess....and maybe there I would be more decesive to meet someone else because he would not be around.I would have free in mind....and maybe I would fall again....just I am freightened if I will have depression there and I would feel guilty that I left my love cause of saying NOT to muslim children.Or maybe he is the man of my life....

Please advise:)

Best Regards,

Life is Beautiful............................

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