Hey Susan

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Apr 7, 2008 at 01:42

Hi there Susan

I'm really sorry this happened to you. I can relate to how you feel. The same thing happened to me with my woman. Together for 1.5 years, and I was sending her money. Lots and lots of money. And she was cheating on me the ENTIRE time.

Naturally, when she got money she was all affectionate, but when she didn't she was always withdrawn and cranky.

After I got a hold of her computer, her e-mail and IM logs indicated she sent naked pictures of herself to other men...HOUR after we had gotten together.

So, yeah, things like that just suck and I know it's hard for you, but give yourself credit, Susan! A lot of people would just try and rationalize it or believe his explanation. I believe a lot of the BS from my woman for the longest time.

But even with the pillow talk and everything, you wouldn't believe the audacity and vileness that some have to use that! My woman even wrote poems for me and did the whole pillow talk routine about kids and marriage, and then 20 minutes later, she'd be on messanger having sex with some stranger she met on myspace!

I know it's SO hard and surreal to believe, but the SAD thing is, it's so common.

I give you kudos for having the stamina to end it right then and there. It's a huge blunder for a guy to call you by another woman's name, and maybe this isn't the right to time to say it, but screw-ups like that in these scams don't happen that often.

It's really difficult---well, okay, it's IMPOSSIBLE to be CAUTIOUS in a deep romantic relationship. Why? Because if you are going to get married---and be HAPPILY married, you have to trust one another. In complete and total giving of oneself (which is what marriage is).

I sympathsize very much with your situation, Susan, and I'm just glad that you got out when you did.

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