Re; Turkish man

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Apr 8, 2008 at 20:16

Hi there

Well, it's nice to know that you actually met in person, but it seems like he wants to get married awful quick.

And I am still skeptical of how true and deep the feelings of two for each other can REALLY be if they've met once for a while and then develop long-distance communication.

You're not going to like what I have to say next, but men who scam women for green cards often look at hard-luck cases, and the most notorious are women who have child or children, especially in divorce situations. There was a major bust of Moroccan men trying to scam hard-luck case women in the USA about 3 years ago in Tennessee. And if you've gotten a chance to read some of the posts on here, almost always with scams it involves younger men with older women who are divorced and with kids, sometimes a gap of 20 years or more. Dating someone who is 20 years apart from you is a red flag in nearly any relationship.

The whole thing about religion---ALL couples need to talk about it in a serious relationship. It's not the most comfortable thing to discuss, but with Muslim men, sometimes they just assume or even assure themselves that you will convert and raise the kids as such. Also, many times this, among many other issues, becomes a problem AFTER marriage.

And I'm a little confused....If he's never brought up religion, then how do you know he doesn't expect you to convert?

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