thanks luigi

Submitted by char (Ireland), Apr 10, 2008 at 08:34

first of all ,thank you for taken time to responde to my comment ...much appreciated.

I can understand the fear of having him want me just for a greencard.. that is why when he mentioned being engaged...i had alarm bells going off in my head...i know it may not seem very nice to think the worst out of someone you love..but when you read and hear other peoples storys and how their marraige only ends up as a meaningless venture for a greencard, it makes you think "could my man just want this".

and believe me i've thought about this over and over. But i have made it clear to him, i wouldn't mind being engaged as a sign of commitment to eachother...but getting married wouldnt happen for a few years, and he just responded by saying he doesnt care when we get married as long as its to me...

as for what you have said about "Hard luck cases" i may have a son but i've no real bad story behind it.. i left my son's father because after a 5 year relationship he cheated on me after giving birth to our son...but i'm proud of my single mum status, i've great family and friends around me have my own apartment ,my own car and work...one thing that i've came across on this site is a lot of women getting scammed out of money...my turkish boyfriend doesn't know that my family are well off, he also doesnt know i have money...because i wanted him to be with me for me...i'm char,22 and a mum ..thats me.

"religion" well on this topic...we haven't spoken about it much because i made it clear i have no intentions of ever converting and religion isnt a big issue for me...i want my son to make his own choice when he is older when it comes to religion and my boyfriend knows all of this...sure we have different views on it..but it doesnt bother him ....but i do agree that me and him need to speak more about it ...but i really cant think of what questions t ask him as i really dont know much about the muslim religion.

again any advice is much appreciated,

thank you

:)

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