some questions for your Turkish Muslim

Submitted by sara (United States), Apr 10, 2008 at 18:33

Hi Char, hope you don't mind me butting in as I just read your posts...

I would ask him some questions about Islam, about whether he thinks that western women are too sleazy, whether he wants his children to be raised Muslim (start running the other way if the answer is yes). Also ask him about other religions, what is his opinion.

With these types of questions, you can find out (if he tells you the truth) about the degree of his Islamic influence. Why is that important? because this will dictate how he treats you once you are married. He will follow the religious practices and traditions, woman in the home, no job, no voice, no existence, invisible behind a hijab, etc, and the best, ok to beat a woman (with a stick no thicker than a finger...)

Where does he want to live? What does he want in his life? Being in love can cloud ones jdugement and blind us to the reality unfortunately sometimes.

I grew up in the middle east, and have seen what happens to many western women when they fall into the clutches of muslim men who woo them with lies and flowery talk. I do not doubt that he feels sincerely for you (unless you do...) but I am concerned that his culture and traditions may be a bit more radically different than you can imagine.

read these messages, there are many more, but the story of this woman stood out for me:

http://www.danielpipes.org/admin/comment_edit.php?id=89920

if you read all the posts by this woman, melungeongirl, she began in a very positive relationship and ended up with a drastic change of heart...

http://www.danielpipes.org/comments/41430

Hope this helps... good luck.

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