What do you think?

Submitted by Milo (United States), Apr 11, 2008 at 10:21

I have been with a Turkish man now for almost 6 years. Honestly he charmed me. He was sweet, hard working and not bad on the eyes. I really didnt think he was Turkish because he looks more Irish or German than Turkish. Well needless to say i fell for the man...I was still married, but in the process of a divorce.

Well we started living together and although he asked me many times to marry him i said no. He did tell me early on that he need his green card, but that wasn't why he wanted to marry me. I guess that is why i kept telling him no to marriage. We have had only two really big fights, but the last one really got to me.. He has developed a friendship with a much younger Turkish/American man.

Ever since he has started to treat me differently..He went on vacation with him without giving me a heads up that he was going anywhere. He just told me the day he was leavin, and then tryed to make it my fault. He then text me and told me his fight was delayed and that it was becoming hard to love me. NOW CAN SOMEONE OUT THERE TELL ME WHAT THE HELL THAT MEANS?

I never in a million years thought that loving someone should be hard. His new friend does not respect me, yet my husband never says anything to him. Is this part of TURKISH CULTURE OR IS HE GAY NOW. According to people i know in in law enforcement and have been to these MUSLIN countries, tthey ell me that they prefer men over women; how true is this?

I am starting to wonder if this man only married me for the green card? But i know that according to the law, we would have to stay together for 5yrs before they give him a permanent one. I just want to know where i stand, i am not one to let anyone get over on me.. I will call the INS and put a stop to his papers. Please give me your opinion.

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