Man from Luxor - now married to another woman

Submitted by Bobo (Denmark), Apr 13, 2008 at 07:24

Reading all this, I like to tell my story. I am so unhappy and feeling like a fool. I come from Holland. For the last three years I have been seeing a man (39 years old – I am 38) from Luxor. I have been visiting him many times and staying with him in a flat, when I was there. When I was home, he was staying with his mother and sister. He is divorced and has two children. I have never been sending him money but giving him a little, when I was with him.

Before Christmas last year he went to court because his X-wife wanted more money for her and the children. He was convicted to pay 15.000 LE to them, and if he could not pay, he would have to go to prison for three years. He called me and told me this, but I did not have the money to help him. A week later he told me that he borrowed the money from an English lady (in her early 50's). I found this strange and asked him, why she would do this. He told that she has a lot of money, and only liked to help him as a friend. He could pay back little by little – and I thought: well, ok. Maybe I can help him little by little.

Last week when I called him he told, that this lady was back in Luxor, and she now wanted him to marry her. If he refused she would go to the police with the papers from the bank about the money and tell a story about him promising to marry her. He was so scared. I still have no chance to help him with so much money but told him, that I could help him little by little. But she wanted the money now.

So Thursday evening they got married. Monday they go to the English consul in Cairo. My heart is broken. I really trusted this man and love him so much. He says he still likes to meet med, if I come to Luxor again, because he doesn't love this woman, but he loves me. We were supposed to get married this summer. Is this just a story he is telling me? I feel like a fool but still heartbroken. If he is honest about this, she is a bad woman and it is a terrible situation for him. If this is not true, then I have been a fool and naive, and I lost a big piece of my heart. I guess I will never know. For now all I can do is cry.

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