Re; not too trusting

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Apr 14, 2008 at 18:25

Thanks for sharing your story!

The thing about meeting people on myspace is that it's not really much better than a dating site. I know this man has even talked to your kids on cam, but the thing is, it's IMPOSSIBLE to really get to know someone like that.

This whole internet dating nonsense is really nothing new. There have been cases (and similar results) of people developing these relationships over the phone. I've done that too

The fact that you are older than he is by five years, makes him 27. Honestly, I don't think he's seriously interested in a relationship with you. I couldn't imagine myself at that age being in a relationship with someone in their 30's with kids. I just don't think he's serious about you. He may even be attracted to you, but as far something serious, I just don't see it happening.

Also, google searches will not scan profiles on dating sites. Many times, especially on religious or adult dating sites, you have to join in order to see someone's profile. Some people use the same username across the internet, IF they want to be found.

The problem with most on-line relationships is that for people who actually do meet and get married, the problems start AFTER the marriage. And it's not just with Moroccans or even men. Guys who get scammed often fork over the dough long before any talk of meeting or marriage happens.

You may have noticed what Dr. Pipes wrote above the comments section: It's real. And you MUST account for the fact that if you date someone who is religious, that his/her family may pressure you in conversion. A lot of times, it's like once you say "I do" the family swarms and ridicules you if you don't convert. And 9 times out of 10, it goes the guy's way.

To me, it is not sufficent that him getting a student visa will make any notion of a green card go away. It may be he's just biding his time carefully, so that by the time his visa runs out, you both will be married.

About the myspace andyahoo accounts: I dated a woman for a year and a half. We met on a dating site and kept contact through myspace. We actually lived only an hour away. We had all kinds of pillow talk, talked every night, and were flirty and all that. A year and a half after we meet, I started getting phone calls from her parents. They told me that she locked herself in her room all night with nothing to do when she was home from college. At college her roommate also told me she rarely goes out, and is ALWAYS on myspace.

Now, I never really thought much of it at first. She flirted with other men, and I let that slide, but eventually I found that she seeing other people---both men and women----behind my back. Her parents gave me her computer, where I accessed all of her IM logs and school e-mail account.

What I found out what was that she was cheating on me the entire time we were together. Now, I don't want to mislead anyone, because we were so on and off, but there was defintate overlap.

My findings were :

1) On the DAY we had become bf/gf, I had a long, long talk with her about on-line flirting. She said it would stop now that we were together. Ha! It showed that 4 HOURS after I talked to her, she sent naked pictures of herself to other men.

2) She was having cybersex once a week with another guy, and she wouldn't have done it with me if I begged her

3) She actually was in a relationship---entirely over myspace----with another woman, and after she met me, she left her, but 8 months later, she stated dating her again, behind my back for fear that her money supply would vanish

4) She also multiple yahoo accounts she used for cybersex chat.

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