Susan

Submitted by leesa (United States), Apr 14, 2008 at 18:35

Susan,

I have tried everything from putting my guys' name on this site about 10 times (initials, city, etc), checking Myspace, Facebook, etc., giving him a fake yahoo add which he denied, everything I can think of and I can't find a single thing.......but something still tells me that he is talking to other women, maybe dating them too, I don't know, it's just intuition.

Just little things...besides the fact that I have sent him money to save for the work visa. I keep telling myself something is going to jump at me and tell me he's not real, but it never happens. My friends that have experience with this tell me he's using me for money, and they know all the facts and processes for getting a foreign man here, and I believe everything they're saying, but something is keeping me there.

I don't know if it's fate and he really is going to be real with me in the end or if it's just that I'm not very smart in this situation. I have never been in this situation before. I was married for years, had lovely children that are adults now, was enjoying the single life for a year and a half, and he came along and turned my world upside down. Now I'm at a loss and very confused on what to do.

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