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to Lina: Please readReader comment on item: Advice to Non-Muslim Women against Marrying Muslim Men Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Apr 15, 2008 at 18:19 Hi Lina! First of all, I don't think you're idiot, but you have to be realistic here. I can understand why you would be attracted to this man, that is understandable. But even if you were dating someone in Canada who is 24, I would say it's definitely a red flag warning if you are looking for marriage. When I was 24, there was NO WAY I would have had a relationship with someone who is 47, heck, I wouldn't have even dated women who were 29. Regarding the money; STOP SENDING IT! I can absolutely promise you you'll never see that money again, and it's not because he's getting a place for you! Lina, in most cultures around the world, including Morocco, it is several times more common to see a MARRIED couple of an OLDER man to a YOUNGER woman. Your observations are well noted, but they also treat people from other cultures differently than their own. And it's not because the reverse are sheltered and shunned, it's because it doesn't happen. Yes, Mohammed had younger wives, and even my grandparents were 16 years apart (my grandpa was older), but this isn't the gold old days anymore, unfortunately. In fact, these scammers intentionally target women in your situation, women with kids are divorced and looking for someone to love. And who can blame you for doing that, Lina? It's normal. But this man of yours is just a coniving person, and what he's after isn't love. I can give you examples of older women and younger guys who have flings, but that's all it amounts to. Here's the other thing: you've lived most of your life as an adult; he hasn't. He may not even know what real love is. I don't doubt that you talk to his family and have a good time with them and all that, but I've been on here a couple of months and I've also done the on-line dating thing myself and gotten screwed over, and trust me, most of the time, it just doesn't work, and nearly every single case on here involves a younger man with an older woman. It doesn't matter even if you are intimate or have gone to Morocco. That's happened before too, and these cases, most of the problems start AFTER marriage. And it's not just with Moroccans, either. I know of several men who have been involved with Russian women young enough to be their grandkids, and what happens is they get married, she comes over here, learns English and gets a driver's liscence and then she's gone. And if that means being intimate with someone they don't even like and living with them for a short while, so be it! In the end, to them, it will be worth it. I just don't believe that him being intimate with means he respects you, I think he means he's after some quick pleasure while he can get it. In many cases, these guys will sleep with a Western woman, but not someone from their own culture. It's double standard, and it's one reason why I'm not a fan of that in unmarried relationships. This kind of scam is very widespread, and when I first experienced it and heard about other scams, I noticed how patient and laid-back many of them are. They aren't anything like the Nigerian 419 lottery scams that our newsmedia does undercover. You can see those guys sweat under the collar when they get caught, but these dating scammers, they aren't afraid to confront you or end it all if they don't get what they want. Lina, you are getting SCAMMED big time from this guy, and it's not because you're dumb or a slut or anything like that, it's just him taking advantage of your good heart and good intentions to have a man in your life. And that's happened to a lot of women on here. But, this isn't the guy for you, and please, for your own sake and the sake of your kids, get yourself out of this. If you don't, it'll only get worse. Listen, I know you've made plans to marry him already and talk to his family, but I'll bet you a million Canadian bucks the only reason they talk to you so much is because you are their supply of money. The exact same thing happened to me. Meet a woman on-line who lived an hour away, and she needed money for this and that, and I gave it to her thinking she was getting ready for us to live together, and then she was using it to go to strip clubs and buy all kinds of things she didn't need. I also found out she was making more money than I was at the time, yet she still needed to borrow money from me. She really didn't have a big family, but her friends and I would talk over myspace a fair bit too. Yet the whole time, she was cheating on me. 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