Re; Taryn

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Apr 16, 2008 at 18:42

Hi Taryn:

I went through something similar about 8 years ago. There was a woman I meet on yahoo personals who said she lived in a small town a few miles from where I lived. I was interested and so contacted her, but in the second e-mail she told me she was Russia and apologized, but just like your man, thought that she had to LIE to get a date. She was very polite, and sent pictures of herself and supposedly those of her family members.

A lot of times, scammers will do that, because most people aren't looking to date someone in another country, and it increases their chances of getting a greencard or money.

The other warning signs is that you are older than he is. I know it's not a huge gap, but dating someone who is 32 and married? That's just not something ordinary men in their 20's do. And as I'm sure you've seen, just about every single case on here involves an older woman with a younger man.

Also, the fact that you explain things to him about religion, really may not matter. Nine times out of ten, the man gets his way, usually because AFTER you are married, he becomes abrasive, and his family also may pressure you. Even the most hardy feminists yield to Muslim men.

The difference about dating scammers is that they aren't afraid to confront you or even call the whole thing off and walk away. This happens more often to Western women, I think, because some women are more apt to do anything for a guy they really care about.

The real kicker with these on-line relationships: once you are married, things turn upside down in a hurry, and very few of those relationships work out. I'm glad I didn't buy the lies of that Russian women. 70% of those relationships fail. Time after time, I see it with these or Russian women: they marry you, get some cash or a greencard, and then once they learn enough English and can get around: they are HISTORY.

Taryn, this ISN'T real. And I know you've come out and shared a lot here with us, and that is admirable, and I know you are not happily married, but this won't solve anything. It will make your life worse.

I can understand your attraction to this turkish man and the attention he gives you, but he really sounds like he's just saying what you want to hear, and that isn't REAL love, it's brown-nosing, to be frank.

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