Thanks, Luigi

Submitted by Squeaky580 (United States), Apr 16, 2008 at 20:00

You make a good point- I must admit that I wasn't entirely up front with my Indian friend. I kinda strung both of them along for the majority of the time, and didn't break it off with the Indian guy until later on. (I never said I was perfect, and you're right, this *is* all online). So when I say he was waiting for me, it was only a matter of a few days that he was waiting.

He's never asked me for a thing. He's been up front with me about his situation, in that the UAE is mostly male Indian workers, he lives in a flat with 6 other men, and has reached a point in his life where he wants to settle down. I fought my feelings tooth and nail, because long distance relationships are so diffucult.. We spoke on a friendly/flirtatious level for a looong time before I would even consider talking about love/marriage with him.. Because I had a healthy skepticism.

To this day, our discussion of marriage is only tentative, until we actually meet face to face. Things can change when you meet someone in the flesh.. More importantly than anything else, *he has never asked me for a thing*, he has introduced me to his friends and family on cam and on the phone.. And *I* have friends in Dubai who will be at the airport with him when he picks me up. But you're soooo right- any long distance, inter-cultural relationship that begins online should be regarded by both parties with a grain of salt until a face to face meeting... Fool me once, shame on you... Fool me twice, shame on *ME*

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