I appreciate your thoughts Luigi

Submitted by Lina (Canada), Apr 16, 2008 at 20:46

I read your advice Luigi and wow what an eye opener. I respect what you have to say and thank you for putting in so much thought and effort. I am a widow and have raised my children for the past 14 years alone. They are at an age where they are independent although they still live at home.

I never worried about being in a relationship until this year as i was so busy and enjoying my life. Now that my kids are always out I have been very lonely and really wanting a loving relationship. I also have met men on the net who turned out to be vulgar, married, lying or just want to show me their bodys on cam. I have been out to nightclubs and singles dances to no avail.

I find that men my age have a lot of baggage and were generally bad husbands to begin with so why would I want them? It is so frustrating to also start dating at my age as i cant even tell who is married and who is not and many people lie. When i met this wonderful religious man who treated me so kind and with such thoughtfullness i just fell in love and want to believe that i have one last chance to be happy. I understand what you mean about the money but i see lots of people on here who even paid for their own weddings.

I have decided to take your advice and not send anymore money until i get there and we are married. I sent it knowing i would never see it again and just sent it from the heart not expecting it back. He says he does not want me to work once he is here and working and i love this idea as i am tired and have worked my whole life. I think about my choices of whats out there and his offer of marriage. I really think i am making the right choice to marry him because what else is there for me? Nothing that i have seen except a long life of loneliness. I know its not realistic but dont you think Its possible?

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