Re; Sandie

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Apr 18, 2008 at 20:55

Ok, Sandie, first of all, it's really important to understand something:

When you live in another country, you are bound by their courts and laws, and the US embassy isn't going to come crusading to your help. There's no WAY any country will risk damaging relations with another over personal cases. Its the same way here: people from other countries have come over here, committed murder and rape, and gotten the death penalty.

The Courts in Jordan run on sharia law. Sharia law treats Christians and pretty much anyone who isn't a Muslim man as inferior. If you, for instance, go to divorce court, you testimony means LESS than his. There's no nice way around it. A lot of people are fooled by what really transpires in Jordan due to the fact that one of thier royal family has married a Western woman and of their peace treaty with Israel.

Oh, sure, you can have certain rights that YOU want in the sharia contract, but if your husband refuses to let you even with them mentioned, who's going to sway him? The court? ha ha. yeah, right. Also, men have the right to beat their wives if they don't obey, and if they aren't physically able, another male of the family can.

See, the idea behind these contracts are to ensure that the wife is obiedent to the will of the husband, and such loyalty is demanded because he is the provider. http://www.cfr.org/publication/8034/

There's A LOT of information about these courts that I really can't post on here, and I encourage you to contact the state department about it, and to NOT believe what you are told by this man. I know that if you have kids, some divorce laws may not allow to you

Sharia courts are often misleading, decietful, and unjust. When you unmask all of their pleasentries, the REAL reason they exist is to preserve Islam at ANY and ALL costs, and if that is your happiness (or some cases your life, if you forsake Islam) then so be it.

No matter how "connected" you feel to this man, it's VERY possible he has other wives.

What a lot of these scammers do is string you along, they don't say anything about Islam or their culture until you are heavily invested in the relationship---emotionally, financially or both, and then they spring it on you. The whole idea is to get you to feel like you can't leave him now! You've come sooo far!

I remember reading some of your other posts, and it sounds to me like becoming a Muslim isn't what you want? And I don't blame you. In Islam, there is no Redeemer for our sins, like in the Orthodox Church. And I know you were waiting for him to change to Christianity, but the reality is sandie, people just don't like to change. Sure, a few will convert, but that's usually because religion isn't that important to them to begin with.

And also, didn't you say earlier he would pay for a trip for you and his sister, YET, now he doesn't have money? Thats' sure convienent. I would even say in a subtle, sneaky way he's trying to get you to OFFER him money.

I dated a girl for a year I met on a dating site once, and she was like this. Always trying to guilt-trip me into money, because she knew if she asked for it up front, it wouldn't happen.

I really wouldn't go. I just think it'll be a waste of a trip. I just don't think that he's making out who he really is. He may not be a greencard scammer, but he isn't being honest and open either.

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