To Leesa...

Submitted by Susan (USA) (United States), Apr 19, 2008 at 11:41

Hi Leesa,

Strange things you've written. I've known my ex Moroccan a little over two years. Only one thing caught my eye that you wrote. Like your man, mine in no way wanted to live in Morocco, he to ONLY wanted to live in the USA. I, as you, would have in a heart beat, moved to Morocco, married him, and continued my life with him there. Heck, I even went to the extent of saying, I'll sell my house (which was testing the waters later on), take the money for us to live on in Morocco, get married in Morocco and live there.

His answer was absolutely no no and NO!! His explanation for this was he didn't want me to have to change my lifestyle from the way I was use to in the USA. What a joke, when I think about it now, cause I like the simple things in life, I'm not materialistic and he knew all this, but time after time he got frustrated when I'd bring this topic up.

My ex/Moroccan was a trip, let me tell you, I also in this two year time period said I'll come their for a two week vacation so we can see each other face to face, nose to nose, lip to lip, again he insisted I save the money for our wedding, that it was expensive with all the paper work...................you know....this now, gets my attention like never before. The man who said he wanted to marry me ever so badly, did not want me to come 'visit' him first before we got married....it was all or nothing for him......................well, he gets nothing from me!!

His wish came true, screw him, you're darn right I'm bitter/sweet with my memories at the moment......and again, I take full responsibility for my own ignorance...saying love is blind...at least I know, my intentions were pure.....as he would say we had a pure love, we are heart to heart, now I realize he has a black heart and only wanting to leave Morocco......good luck to him and all his future endeavors, I wish him no harm. But I do have a bittersweet taste in my soul for this man now.......

Good luck Leesa, but some of that is a red flag to me. Offer to go meet him first before you spend all your hard earned money on his work visa.....just tell him you want to do this first and see his reaction. I'm not trying to cause problems for you and your man, but just rock the boat a bit and see his real responses.....Good luck and know you don't have to settle and deserve the best in life too!!!

blinded by love once, silly me

Susan

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