Re: Lani meet my messenger

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Apr 21, 2008 at 01:03

Are you sure it's meetmysmessenger and not meetyourmessenger?

Because I've heard that the latter is very explicit involving teenagers and adults, but it's only a rumour. Probably not something you want to be involved in.

The meetmymessanger could have been some solitication for privacy software. I guess if you wanted you could use an on-line translator and find out what that's all about. I don't think either site is up and running anymore.

But what bothers me the most are these sharing of passwords. The thing is, if you share your information, and he goes off on a tangent, you're going to find it hard to explain to your friends and co-workers if he e-mails them. I actually had this nearly happen to me once with a woman I meet on myspace. She guessed my password, and thought about e-mailing all my friends whenever we fought.
That's the risk you run. Also, if your credit card info is going to those accounts: be careful.

If I may speak frankly, your bf is either insecure and controlling, looking for your bank account numbers, or both. Nothing good can come of this, Lani, because even though you've met, there isn't trust.

Please, please take a moment to look from the outside-in: He DEMANDS all your information, and your on-line privacy is non-existent. Is this how you really want to live your life. Lani? Because I've been through this before and this issue is just the tip of the iceberg. Yes, two people in a relationship should be open and honest, but quite frankly, I think he has other accounts.

I thought too that if my woman and I met all this would end. Well, it didn't. and it actually got worse. I found out she was seeing other people behind my back, having cybersex in the middle of the night, and had accounts I didn't know about. It took me 1.5 years to figure that out, and she was quite sloppy about it. I just didn't look because I didn't think it was right, and when I did at the upmost need! BOOM! It all came crashing down.

I actually didn't hack into anything, because she had given me her passwords. I did get into her school e-mail, but that's because it was on the computer. So, when I looked to see what she was doing and called her out on it, her main concern was the privacy. yea, she didn't care she had got caught cheating all this time, she was more worried about her privacy. Boy, is that real love or what?

By the way he is acting, all jealous and selfish and vigilant tells me, as a guy, he doesn't trust you. That's not good, Lani, because suspicious leads to anger like no other except maybe outright cheating.

The bottom line is, you've been together for three years, and he's not going to change. People just don't like to change or be changed by someone else.

Right now, it's all on-line stuff, but pretty soon you won't even be able to have a night out with the girls without him throwing a big fit.

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