For Lina

Submitted by lani (United States), Apr 21, 2008 at 14:43

I just had to respond to your letter. I really understand your situation and how you feel. Finding a man in a loving and religious culture is one thing, but in the long run you may realize the hell you have placed yourself in. I , too, have regarded myself an idiot as I am beginning to learn this culture (moroccan) that is so different from mine. Don't get me wrong, the Moroccans are beautiful people and have a great culture.

He will say to you that he does not want you to work because you will be busy with other work in the house. You will see what I mean, if you commit to this relationship. You have to have permission to leave the house. Being American, we may not understand the situation and how silly that seems. It is not silly to them.

Have you gotten to the part where you may have to possibly convert to his religion? Good thing to think of and look deep into what you believe in religiously. There are many things to consider. Luigi is right , when he says that we are treated differently because we are not of their culture.

Everything will be just wonderful in the beginning, but keep on the lookout. You will see the changes come and you will be too deep in love that you cannot turn back and leave so easily. Your man will give you his attention.......all you want. Sex is important to them and will get all they want. We are just merely sluts to them. Don't let that loving , religious bit get you. If that is how it really is, why not marry first before the sex and why have it in the familiies house. In my culture, it is taboo and disrespectful to do that (Hawaiian). I was baffled at that , when I met my bf in Morocco 3 years ago.

There are many men out there readily available to take away your loneliness. Better to be happy and have all you have intact. It is your life, but I just want to say that your situation sounds very "scammy" and he is not genuine. I am sorry to say that, but love blinds us just, when we needed our eyesight to our sanity and respect. I wish you the best, but I just wanted to tell you this from my perspective because I am involved with a moroccan. Stay safe.

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