response for Lina

Submitted by lani (United States), Apr 23, 2008 at 14:01

You seem like a very well grounded person and love life. Seems like you have been searching for the right person for some time. I will tell you this about me. My bf has not done a wrong thing to me to make me unhappy, yet. For me, the difference in culture has affected my thoughts and it is another change to adjust to or find another man to love. Please understand that God is not just God to the muslims. I cannot explain it to you , but you will have to see for yourself that it is not just that way.

As Americans, some of us are very respectful of other people's religions, but don't expect others to respect yours. Islam is a very good religion, but some believers use their religion as a way of getting out situations sometimes. For instance, some sexual practices may be allright to perform on them, but to be performed on you. NNNNNNOOOOOOOO, it is against my religion they will say. Ask , if it would be performed by or on a woman of their culture. You may not get an answer or they will say something to the effect that the women do not know how to enjoy it. Sorry , I had to go this route, but just so you can be aware.

I am not trying to scare you, but just that this advice has been given and you know. Your man may possibly be a very good man. My man is very good to me and we have our usual disagreements, but we always make a solution. Being with him for 3 years does not guarantee me that he will remain the same person I met 3 years ago.

Keep yourself pretty always and groom yourself. It is good that your man will be living in Canada and learning the culture there. I hope he is genuine and not just looking for a visa or GC. My bf will be coming here soon, too. One thing I do have going on is the support of my friends who I am surrounded by everyday. We are very close here and my bf will be constantly surrounded by them , too. We are supportive of him, but at the same time they are looking out for my best interest, too.

I do look forward to making our lives a happy one. Yes, I am happy with my man. He has taught me a lot and vice versa. All my trips there were very positive and so much fun. He and I are both poor so we help each other out. I have learned so much in these past 3 years about his culture, religion, friends and family. If things don't work out........I will be back here to tell my story. I hope that will not happen, but you never know.

Good luck Lina and I wish you much happiness and love in your life. Take care and be safe.

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