Re: Nadia

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), Apr 23, 2008 at 18:41

Hi Nadia! Thank you so much for sharing that with us! I know it's not easy for a lady to come on here and ask for advice in such personal matters, but there's a few things I think you really be aware of:

First and most important: I think this is going WAY too fast. You've agreed to marry a man that you've never heard his voice before? That's kinda putting the cart before the horse, isn't it?

Also, I'm assuming you've seen pictures of him, and you describe him as being very fit and all. To me, that suggests they aren't real. A lot of times, scammers will steal pictures off the internet and use them in dating profiles, because studies show that profiles with nice pictures get FAR more attention than one's that don't.

About meeting his family: Many of the women I have talked to in situations like these get to meet the family. There are no cultural restrictions, which suggests to me that he's hiding something.

I don't blame you for not believing he's a virgin. Sara just posted an article on here yesterday that said that sex toursim of middle-aged women who go to North Africa for younger men is a booming industry, so don't be fooled by the culture or religious rules of Egypt and Islam. Believe me, they have the same desires and wants as any other man, and will act on them regardless.

You're right on the money about converting. They'll say "Oh, I don't mind that you're not Muslim." but once you are married POOF! it's like a switch goes off. Heck, in Saudi Arabia, the family will pressure you to convert the minute you get off the airplane. It's possible his family doesn't even know about you. Also, they treat people outside of their culture differently.

The gaps in talking to him: Those are probably because he's talking to other women. With on-line dating, this happens ALL the time.

I just don't this this is for real. He wants to get married right away, and that's usually a sign all he wants is a greencard to the USA. I think he's just using you. There's better men out there, Nadia. and you deserve better than him.

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