Zella, I have been saying the SAME thing but NOBODY believes me!!

Submitted by FARRAH (United States), Apr 23, 2008 at 20:27

Okay, ladies....now I have a little bit of "back-up". I know it can be incredulous that someone can hurt women in such a way as pretending to love them , change character, then leave w/o a second thought!! "Bride Price" is a better term when I say there IS another younger girl WAITING for your man!!

Listen to me!! He is collecting money to impress HER family!!! They want an older lady so that he can claim:O! I need to marry again to have son. They also feel ALL Americans have $$$. If you are able to get them a green card they will insist on sponsoring an "Uncle" or "Cousin" soon after...

If you travel to their country to become their wife...Don't even DREAM about him taking you outdoors for long walks hand in hand. IT'S NOT HAPPENING!! Because you are his wife, you must stay inside!! In those cultures that's the least of your worries. It's the MOTHER IN LAW who will put you through the wringer!! And if you are EVER in a situation where you are ALONE w/ another man...kiss your marriage good bye!! YOU will be blamed for that. Anyway, what I have heard is that when you marry over there, they IMMEDIATELY take your passport from you. MOST sell them. There is A LOT of money to be made in selling legitamate passports.

I know I should word things "pretty" and smooth over the "rough edges" but I refuse. I want all of you to know. YES, there is good , my man is GOOD. He is a gift to me. But a friend warned me 2 years ago about these men...and I didn't listen. The tears I have cried...too sad to talk about. Someone suggest we should write a book of our experiences. We should....

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