honey, Farrah can help you...

Submitted by FARRAH (United States), Apr 23, 2008 at 20:51

Nadia, I'll start w/ the "sweet" then end w/ the "sour". It is sooo nice that you feel you are in "luv". That's about as nice as it gets. First ,never, no way in Egypt will his family allow him to marry a Black woman. NEVER. It is true he could be a virgin. And they ARE NOT allowed to date. The parents search for prospective girls for him.There is NO WAY he can marry w/o his parents approval. NO WAY an Imam will marry you two w/o some family member there to witness the NIKAAH. If you travel there he simply wants a temporary marriage so that he can sleep w/you. Is he a Shi'a Muslim??

Hon, they ONLY want fair/white wives. The MEN often are dark w/kinky hair but NEVER the wife. The only way the family would accept you a bit is if you were a DOCTOR. That's it . Nothing else. Forget Egypt dear, find a husband here then travel THERE on your honeymoon if you wish. He's not serious. Never was, never will be. Close that book. Those guys ONLY do what the parents say. Now, in Islam race should NEVER be an issue...BUT the reality is much different.

Bye Nadia....ask us ANYTHING. There is great advice all around.

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