re second wife

Submitted by yasemin (Canada), Apr 24, 2008 at 15:27

As my own husband has most likely done a secret second marriage while i am still his wife, I will reserve what would most certainly be a scathing comment on your lack of morality. Both in Turkey and in the western world, women who do this are viewed as being filth.

The fact is what you are going to do is illegal. Please inform your "fiance". If you marry this man it has to be in a religious marriage as Turkey allows only one wife and the only legal ceremony is a civil ceremony. You'll have to pay off the imam to turn a blind eye and not check the marriage records which is the legal procedure for an imam.

Furthermore, if the wife does not know about you, and this is quite likely unless she is from the traditional part of Turkey, then your "fiance" is breaking the law of islam which says that the first wife must know about you and must also agree to this little immoral arrangement. The illegal marriage gives any children no rights of inheritance as far as i know.

Final note: have you even stopped to consider the pain and dishonor you will be bringing to the real wife ? All i can say is Shame on you. What you are doing is disgusting. AND very illegal. I hope court finds out because you and your "fiance" are both in trouble - the penalty for bigamy is prison for you both. I hope you are punished for this illegal and immoral behavior. I am disgusted by this betrayal of another woman and your current husband.

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