Anyone married to an Iranian???

Submitted by Jaslina (United States), Apr 28, 2008 at 11:24

I recently married a guy from Iran that I met while I was on vacation. He was working on his PhD from a local university and we had the best few weeks together, I went back and visited him for a month, he came back and stayed with me and my parents!

It was a dream come true!

Now we are married (I am 24, he is 30) and now I feel like I am walking on eggshells. The slightest thing pisses him off and then he insults me, calls me names, and is disrespectful to my mom. He goes for walks with her and vents to her about how "stupid I am" and says so much more about me to my own mother! My mother stands up for me but she won't even tell me what he says about me. The most she will say is, "You should have stayed single....."
It breaks my heart to hear my mom say this .

He has never hit me or abused me, but when he gets angry, it's so depressing. He also expects me to do EVERYTHING for him and he doesn't do anything for me. Is this normal? I am a full time college student, he doesn't do ANYTHING because he can't work until his work permit comes back and yet, he still expects me to spend time with him, go to the store with him, cook him dinner......

I just need someone to talk to.

I really want this to work because when we have "good" days, it's the best days of my life. But when it's a "bad" day, I regret ever saying "I do". Is this what it is like to be married? Through thick and thin and all that??

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