re how do you know

Submitted by yasemin (Canada), Apr 28, 2008 at 16:44

I saw your post and have been wracking my brain to come up with an answer i would give someone to this question if none of the red flags i've written about were noticed.

In hindsight, i wish i had asked a female friend to contact my husband and try flirting with him in the early days after he had declared he loved me, just to see if he was true to his word.So there's one idea you could try. Underhanded yes, but effective. Because sometimes, as it was for me, you just have NO idea what's going on behind your back and as one person said to you, they do wear masks and they change from so loving into abusive pigs so quickly your head will spin. If you deny them something they want for example, be it sex or money or sponsorship - it's the best way to see who they are.

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