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Submitted by FARRAH (United States), Apr 30, 2008 at 22:19

Wendy my man is Algerian.....I came to this site because I had some questions,doubts, etc...because his personality suddenly changed after marriage. But my doubts have been put to rest....Anyhoo the past 3 years I had been looking for a man who wanted to settle down. I found American men either had a "baby's Momma", were not settled down in life, or simply immature...so I started looking for something "different.".

During the quest...I experienced ALOT. And I just wanted to share what I have learned. An ex-friend warned me of it all. But I wasn't ready to hear the sad truth...He won't talk to me anymore....but I just wish I could tell him :he was right. So, I do not care if people don't listen...I don't care if NO ONE believes me...I just won't keep my mouth shut. I WANT ALL OF YOU to find LUV. We deserve it. And of course there are decent awesome guys everywhere. Though it seems Turkey & Morocco has alot of explaining to do.. :). There are red flags...or "nagging doubts" that some of us have...this is the place to air them.

Back to your statement.. I am correct. In Islam you should be married in front of the Imam, w/ regard to Allah. Any other way sorta gives them a way out. No promises were "truly" made in their eyes. There are specific guidelines in Muslim marriage...quite simple actually...

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