Julie

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), May 2, 2008 at 17:30

Luigi - you cannot possibly condemn a muslim/non-muslim relationship until you have had first hand experience and believe me these relationships can work if both the partners are willing to be tolerant of each other's beliefs, cultures, teachings, families etc etc.

First of all, Julie MOST people do NOT date interculturally. Second, sociological studies as well as experiences on this board have showed that people FAKE it. Meaning, the they date someone with a different religion or skin tone just to show how tolerant they are or because it's exotic. What do you think happens to marriages and long-term partnerships based on appearance? Surely, you must know the answer.

And I am a CATHOLIC. I am not permitted to condemn anyone, nor have I. I guess that's a key difference between me and Muslims.

I agree that are are a lot of scammers out there and not just in the middle east either. Many of the mixed religion relationships don't work but please don't condemn a relationship because of your bad experiences.

Many of these relationships, even after 3 years of marriage, are either miserable or they fail entirely. That's what stats PROVE, Julie.

If people ask questions on this site and they are given answers from people who have had experience in this matter I would consider that they do deserve respect.

Not if they are just going to come on here and say "Look at me! I'm married to a (insert ethnic/religion here) MAN!

What to know why? Because for the most part, people on here who do that have nothing else to say! That's it! So, what are the women on here supposed to think, if the answer to EVERY question they have is "I like Muslim, so there! And if you don't agree, you're an Islamphobe or a racist!"

Luigi - you cannot possibly condemn a muslim/non-muslim relationship until you have had first hand experience and believe me these relationships can work if both the partners are willing to be tolerant of each other's beliefs, cultures, teachings, families etc etc.

As I said, I don't condemn people, but EVERY single person on here has given me ample reason to believe that their relationship is a scam or will not work out. How do I know this, Julie? Because I've investigated it before.

Maybe you shouldn't make such comments about me unless you've dated someone 20 years younger and then go around and tell everyone what you have is real. Try it, and then get back to me, ok?

I agree that are are a lot of scammers out there and not just in the middle east either. Many of the mixed religion relationships don't work but please don't condemn a relationship because of your bad experiences.

I haven't seen anyone condemn anyone on this site yet.

And I still fail to see how you can get to know someone over the internet even if you do meet them in the end.

That's good, Julie, because you CAN'T. They can pretend to be ANYONE and a lot of times when talking to scammers on-line, I could tell I wasn't talking to a woman.

Life is full of surprises and if you want to persue a relationship in the internet mode then you will get a BIG surprise because it is almost never what you thought it would be! By the way, I am quite conversant with Islam and it's origins but thanks for the history lesson.

That's nice, and I have no doubt that your man is content to show you all the good parts about Islam while hiding the bad, but Dr. Pipes has been doing this for over 2 decades and Robert Spencer is a world-renowned expert on Islam, so if you don't mind, I'll stick to what they have to say, especially since they aren't personally involved in the matter.

And you must obviously realize that Islam will not stop until has conquered the world, or died trying.

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