Advice on Egyptian man

Submitted by amanda (Germany), May 3, 2008 at 08:37

This is a "really wonderful man" - who will tell you to just go to your room and cry?!? Are you kidding? He may be an engineer, but his ideas about marriage are hardly 21st century.

When he says no "fights" he means no discussions (my boyfriend called this "hassles" and he meany any disagreement with him and even any innocent questions about Islam) For sure he'll give you enough reason to cry - obviously he can already imagine the scene!

Once you're alone with him in Egypt, you'll be without the support of friends and family. If he thinks this is the way to handle the inevitable conflicts every couple has, you're in for much unhappiness. I wouldn't be so ready to believe that his former wife was as bad as he says. Perhaps she had to lie to get out of the house or out from under his thumb.

Please remember that the Koran says it's OK to hit your wife if she doesn't "obey." Never mind that liberal Muslims say that means only a "little tap" - it's not exactly what we in the west think is the best way to resolve conflicts. If he can coldly envision you crying in your room (if you have one for yourself at all !!) ,he could easily take this punishment for you one step further, feel perfectly justified and no doubt have the support of his family in top of it. Mental cruelty is not a concept which is understood in Muslim countries.

How about telling yourself you'll wait until you find someone who likes you just as you? Ged rid of this man FAST!

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