To Onna Maria

Submitted by amanda (Germany), May 4, 2008 at 09:30

I understand you very well. I caught my former boyfriend watching child pornography (on my computer!!). That's carrying this fixation with virginity a bit far in my opinion!

Western men who do that are considered just plain sick. At the same time they go on and on about how important honor and respect are in their culture. Respect for who? For what? Child porn is OK, taking money from women is OK ,but eating pork or drinking a glass of wine at dinner are big offences.

I HATE that hypocrisy and I think that repression in Islamic countries has something to do with it. The combination of religion and peer group pressure in there can make these men very distorted. Anything goes - as long as the extended family doesn't find out about it! Anyway, as Zella wrote, don't be too hard on yourself. After my experience I felt I couldn't trust my own judgment on ANYTHING, but really, I had just never encountered anything like this before so I did make a mistake. It won't happen again.

Take care of yourself!

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