for Annie

Submitted by lani (United States), May 5, 2008 at 15:15

Hi Annie,

It still sounds like the men have arranged marriages. It is common for them to marry their cousins and it is traditional. Sounds like mom and dad are traditionalists.

In some places of Morocco, that kind of marriage is not as common as before. It will be hard for you to be with him as it sounds. If both he and his brother is marrying secretly behind the parents back....it sure sounds like they are not happy with the situation. The men are rejecting the arranged marriages.

I never heard of such an experience like yours, but it sure does not sound good. Otherwise, if your man loved you ,he would tell his family about you. After all, you are the one he will have to marry and live with for the rest of his life or however long it endures. I would take the risk of moving away from the family once you are married. That may be your chance to see how real he is to his words and you. You make the choice , Annie.

My bf and I go around with all of his friends and families all over. I still keep my antennas up . Like you, I love this man very much, but you still have to watch your back girl. No one else is looking out for your well being , but you. I cannot tell you whether your bf is genuine and doing the real thing with you. It is very hard and I sense your frustrations. Just don't lose yourself in all of this because you sound like a great person.

Please take care of yourself , Annie. Write me anytime you want. We will talk more, again. Stay safe.

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