Re: Fatima

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), May 5, 2008 at 16:51

Hi there Fatima! Thanks for sharing!

What you need to think about here is: Can you really fall in love with a man over webcam and the internet?

I don't think you can. At best, you are dealing with a shadow of what that person might be.

I guess I've written several times on here about a quick marriage, but it doesn't always have to be time-oriented. The reality is, it sounds like you've never met this man, so how on earth could you possibly know if you want to marry him or or not? This is a tell-tale sign that he's after a visa.

Even though you are a Muslim, the reality is he'll still cheat you to get what he wants. He sees you as living in a Western country and that could very well be what he wants.

The thing is, Fatima, is that we communicate much more than just by typing or talking over webcam. Studies have shown that little babies who have little contact with their family will die just from a lack of contact. The internet takes that away entirely.

I'm sure that you have faith in a relationship, but the faith you are talking about is no substitute for trust. Trust is the foundation of a marriage, and you really have to meet the person before developing a level of trust. But even if you do this, it won't necessarily make things better. It'll just end up taking up more of your time and money.

Most of the women on here think they have the real deal. The reality is, they don't. Scams are very prevalent with on-line dating.

I just don't think this is going to work out, Fatima.

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