Re; SLS

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), May 5, 2008 at 17:13

Welcome back SLS

First of all, I can't say I approve of the trip. Let me elaborate:

Him saying that he loves you ALL the time is a sign of a scam, insecurity, or both. Men who know their way around women know much better than to say I love you to or compliment them all the time. It takes away the meaning of the words.

He's clearly working the desperate angle here. I've written about how many of these scammers will get angry and fearless and even threaten to dissolve the relationship if they don't what they want. I've been through a similar scenario where the women I dated over myspace would threaten suicide or to sleep with other men when she didn't get her way.

And it wasn't like "If you don't give me X, I'll sleep with someone and then kill myself." These types of persons are RARELY direct, and only at the most desperate hour will they be. Its hard to explain unless you've experienced it, but usually it starts with them calling you crying about something to soften your heart, and then they give a sob story (a sales technique) and then say how life isn't worth living without you and that you'll drive them to someone else's arms or some tragic death like in Romeo and Juliet (another sales trick).

Those are actually sales tricks that strippers use for bigger tips, quite honestly.

What he's banking on here is that he'll be able to convince you in person. Meeting someone once or twice even for a week barely breaks the dating stage. He'll probably spend most of his time trying to convince you to marrying him through subtle charms.

The biggest concern I have is would you be able to say NO firmly and make it stick. Especially with women, scammers are MASTERFUL at persistence. I'm afraid that is exactly what he is doing here, SLS. Before you were quite skeptical of this, but now you're going to be in Jordan in a week.

You've also mentioned before that he's 8 years younger than you. Again, that's a sign of a scam. Also, he changed his story about the traveler's checks, remember?

The fact that you haven't caught him in lies, well, that's not always easy to do. Why? Because a lot of times, trouble doesn't start until AFTER marriage.

And a month ago, you weren't even sure about marriage, and even called him you're "friend"

So, what's up with that?

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