very confusing- Egyptian men

Submitted by anonymous american (United States), May 6, 2008 at 14:07

I just want to say, i understand how all of you girls lose your heart. I think you should never feel stupid since you were following your heart and were sincere, you did the right thing. It isn't your fault if they had bad intentions from the beginning. You made a mistake. The hard part as I know is moving on.

I understand so well, as I've loved an Egyptian man for almost 7 years now. Many times when I confront him when he is wrong... it almost is like *i'm bothering him* *i'm making trouble* - even sex with another woman he says is 'not wrong' cuz although we were together 2 years we hadn't yet met in real .

He just ends the discussion when i question or complain or confront him because 'he's tired' or whatever thing my stupid whining is interrupting him from. Many times he calls me stupid, crazy, fool..when i catch him.

However when he is "with me & not playing the field" it is the sweetest, he is the warmest man I've ever experienced. I love our good times together when things are going well....Our very short time visiting together after 2 years of knowing each other online was like a dream for me.I can't imagine it was fake the way he held me, or kissed me, or put my hair out of my face and behind my ear. I feel like i could just stay in his arms forever and be totally satisfied.

Its so confusing though at the same time.. to think a man who loves me could do anything to hurt me, and there have been many occasions that I was devastated when he was cheating or playing with other girls behind my back.

He will DEFINITELY marry an Egyptian wife TO BE TRADITIONAL he says. But still wants me always cuz he loves me and doesn't want me out of his life ever,... we;ve discussed me becoming his 2nd wife. I love him so much I feel I would rather do this.. than lose him . The problem is, the other women he's chases after were 5-10 years younger than me.... and I'm 4 years older than him. I feel always he is wanting cuter or better than me... and it hurts me.

I try so hard to understand him and how he can love me as he says while having done all he's done since he's met me. and why would he keep holding onto me,,, if he didn't love me? Is it typical that Egyptian men just don't want to lose any woman?

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