Be Careful- I was engaged to a Jordanian

Submitted by alena (United States), May 6, 2008 at 22:04

Dear SLS

I was engaged to a Jordanian. Traveled there 3 times. He was lovely. Lovely words...told me he loved me all the time...all the time. After a year and a half, something just didn't sit right and when I visited he was very secretive and I sensed something was off. I met his family and had a whole engagement ceremony. I met all his friends..so the situation seemed like an up and up.

But he would from time to time say something coarse to me and then give me a sad story about how difficult this is for him. And riddle me with I love you's and lots of romantic, unbelievably romantic words. I was surprised and flattered but it wasn't real.

I sponsored him for a visa to the US, he came and within a week and a half, he held me hostage, sexually assaulted me, and promised me he would kill me if I didn't obey him. This is science for them...they all do it. His brother is now doing the same to my friend that was also falling for him. His name was Nabil so if you hear this name there, please run in the other direction he is very dangersous, but very charming.

I am not suggesting your fella is like this but there is a very high chance, it is. only 8% of these situations actually work out....and what I mean by work out is that the marriage lasts past 2 years...I would in no way call that working.

I am a Muslim, so I know the culture, but I am an American--so to them you are worthless and easily duped. It is a game they play and they all know each other. It doesn't matter what he says, the fact that he is tricking you into thinking your making these decisions, is the game. The fact that you think you are going on vacation to Jordan, is the trick. I am sure he was involved in that decision and I am sure he has plans with you that is nothing like a "vacation", it will be a set up....I did

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