Re: money

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), May 7, 2008 at 20:17

Hello again, bashful

It's good you're not sending money. Getting involved financially with a man you are not married to is a mistake. I promise that anyone who does this will never see that cash again.

How long does it take?

If you were a guy, it would more than likely happen almost instantly. But with women, they've learned they have to get the girl to invest in the relationship emotionally first. That's the most effective.

Truth be told, he may never ask for it.

BUT, be very, very careful. It also depends on how you use the word "ask." Usually, this comes in the form of a sob story. And as I've been saying, this is a marketing technique and isn't normal romantic behavior.

I dated a woman on-line once who did this. We did met up whenever we could. She never asked outright "Luigi, will you send me money." But she would always call crying saying that she couldn't pay her bills and was contemplating suicide." So the, idea was for me to offer to her first, which, shamefully, I did. And she was always more affectionate when I sent her money. Imagine that. I can recall few times when she asked outright for money.

Asking for money is only the most obvious sign of a scam. It doesn't mean that if he doesn't ask for money, that this is real.

Another example is for a while I was talking to a woman on-line from Suriname. She never asked me for money, but wanted to meet in a remote area in the south of Mexico. Ha!

Also, keep in mind that a lot of these scammers don't sweat under the collar. You may have seen Nigerian lotto and 4-1-9 scams get busted by journalists on television and when caught they either run away or sweat profusely.

Not so with dating scammers. They are more than happy to talk to you about honesty and loyalty are sooo important to them, and if you call them out, they will tell you how rude you are, or may even threaten to end it all unless you submit to their demands. This can also happen if you start asking lots of questions. And sometimes, they'll do this, or just ignore what you are asking.

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