Important! Everyone please read!

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), May 7, 2008 at 21:03

To Erica and everyone else reading this:

For the last month or so, this particular blog has been sensible and quiet.

However, occasionally, women will come on here, and defend their man and every other man of his country, skin color and/or religion.

If you go to other blogs, such as topix or Y! answers, you'll pretty much find the same thing.

Why? Luigi is as man who extols advice of little sense which he tries to adapt to his own tragic failed relationship. As far as I can gather he has not been in a relationship with an Egyptian Mulsim man and his advice can sometimes be deemed bordering on racist.

Actually, my relationship failed because my woman was cheating, lying to and defrauding me. Our relationship was hardly a relationship at all. It was more like I was her bank teller and bartender and sleep-over buddy all rolled into one. Which is basically what's going on with pretty much everyone on this site in some manner, shape or form.

Are you really going to sit here and say that NOT sending strangers across the Atlantic money or that no one ever gets taken advantage for a visa is BAD advice? I mean, are you that far gone, Julie? Ladies, if you were dating a guy stateside, would you give him your paycheck if he asked for it?

I wish I could convince you, Julie, that I am not bitter over it. At first, sure I was, but then I realized others, such as some on here, have had it much worse. It really puts things into perspective.
Trouble is, Julie, Islam isn't a RACE. It's a religion.

And that accusation just won't work me. See, I'm probably the only person on here who's been called an Islamic terrorist and a Zionist in the same blog thread. I've probably been called every name on the planet. so, please, just don't think that calling me a racist is going to get me to back down.

Is this why you are on here? Because you want me to say things about Islam and North African men and on-line dating that are false? You, and maybe even your man really need that reassurance, that, well, you can't get from each other?

So, I should just sit here and say not what I really think, but what others want me to think? Because again: someone's precious feelings might get hurt? as British comedian Pat Condell would say?

Ironically, that's the very thing I am trying to STOP.

Why listen to me? Well, if you don't believe me, go see what yasemin and Viking woman and Sara have to say. I think you'll find women who defend their man and his ethnicity to be in the minority. And I just think it's absolutely selfish and pathetic to give advice based on your feelings for you man.

I've done the on-line dating deal MANY times, more times than you probably have, Julie. And I've also investigated relationship scams. The fact that you are even on here suggests to me that you yourself are being scammed or conned in some way, Julie.

.Your Egyptian man is obviously Muslim and a scholar of Islam. He wants the perfect dutiful wife and wants to change you to this ideal.

Scholar of Islam? What are his qualifications? Does he have a degree in theology, like, say, Robert Spencer? Or a PH D like Dr. Pipes?

Perfect and dutiful? Try submissive.

If this man was not Egyptian and you had met him in your own country would you still accept these demands if the relationship was to progress? It amazes me that people think that only Egyptians, Moroccans etc can control women this way because they are Muslim

Well, Julie, I've been saying stuff all along about Russian, Nigerian women, Latinos and Western men. I've even told kelly that I would talk to her Egyptian male friends about Russian women who could very well be scamming them. But I guess in your hatred over me, you've missed that entirely, or you're buying into your so-called "man's" rhetoric that Arab men are better than everyone else, or despite your cries of RACISM, you don't care if a non-Berber gets criticized. That, of course, is what orthodox Islam IS based on.

but I know many Western men who have this trait too. My advice is to leave him where he is and look for someone who won't attempt to change you as the cultural difference is too wide to cross in this instance. There are a lot of websites and articles which explain the wife's role in Islam and I think that you you need to research this area to make an informed decision re your relationship. Best wishes for a comfortable and informed decision..

Any website that is NOT .gov is pretty much a waste of time. You even have to be careful about .org sites, but this one is decent because it's run by Dr. Pipes, a world reknowned expert in Middle East Affairs. Jihadwatch also offers a critical but fair perspective on what Islam really is, without all the politically correct jargon that some women who are "in love" want me to say.

And about change: People, especially adults, don't like change. Dating someone thinking you can change them is folly and unrealistic. So is the idea that love can break this.

It won't happen, if you want to experience it to prove it to yourself, then be my guest. You'll be more than welcome on here to share your tale of woe and heartache. Because no one else is going to understand or even care.

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