Love yourself first, for the sake of your own happiness

Submitted by Aimee (Canada), May 7, 2008 at 23:37

It sounds like you really care about this guy, but he's obviously stringing you along while keeping the other woman around. You need to let go of him. I know that this is hard to do and that you feel attached to him, especially after losing your virginity to him. If you have any sense of self worth you need to stand your ground and let him know that you are not interested in being second best.

Every woman deserves to have the love and respect she's willing to give a man, to have this love reciprocated. You deserve to be treated well and in order to do that you have to love yourself enough first to walk away and risk losing something that you feel emotionally linked to, but is lacking significantly anyhow. YOU DESERVE MORE. Love yourself enough to give yourself that. You are obviously not happy with the situation, you need to focus on longterm and not the past. He may have made you happy at one point, but he doesn't seem to be doing much for you at the present moment... or in the future (This other woman is still part of his life). The solution seems pretty clear to me.

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