Thanks, and an anticlimactic update

Submitted by Lis (United States), May 8, 2008 at 20:40

Wow, thanks for the comments, everyone! You all are so kind to give advice to people you don't even know here. It is like free therapy! :) Sorry I took so long to respond. I hadn't been here partly because I am afraid the whole thing is a moot point.

He started being kind of wishy washy on me coming, saying that he didn't think he could have time off during June like we had talked about. I don't know if that is really true or if he just had second thoughts about me visiting, although he did say he was really disappointed and he had really wanted to see me, etc. I don't think I would've had enough vacation days anyway. He does say he still wants to see me when he comes to see his uncle and cousins in the fall.

I think the whole thing may be starting to fizzle out, it seems like we are talking less and less often, it has been about 2 weeks since we actually spoke on the phone, and I emailed him a couple of days ago and he hasn't replied. He may be busy or without internet access, but who knows. And although I still like him a lot, I am not quite as "infatuated" with him as I was. But I still am somewhat infatuated. Lol.

I will just try to play it by ear. I do still really like him, but I know it would be hard to sustain and build a relationship with someone that you never see and don't even talk to very often. I also wonder if it is even worth trying, with all the cultural differences and never knowing, as I have expressed here, if he is even telling the truth about anything. Not that he seems untrustworthy, but it is just not the kind of situation that is conducive to trust. I will just go with the flow and see what happens, and try not to get too emotionally involved but not totally write him off either.

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