to Amanda again

Submitted by Lisa (United States), May 8, 2008 at 22:59

Sorry for all the separate responses! But thanks for the good advice again. I will try to find that book. I do wonder if the cultural differences would be too much in the end. When I was there everything seemed fine, but it is really hard to imagine him coming here, and introducing him to my friends and us all hanging out together and him fitting in. I don't know. He did seem very western almost to the point of being obsessed with western culture and trying to seem american. I think what I have learned so far is I will not: 1) get married anytime soon 2) send him money. lol.

I said this in another post but you said you would be curious to know what happened- I am feeling more unsure about things, the more time goes by the less "infatuated" I feel with him. I do still care about him and part of me would like for a real relationship to work out, but we are talking less frequently and I feel like there is more of a distance between us. I have felt like that before, though, and then we will talk again and everything is fine. So I am just going to try and play it by ear and see what happens, hope for the best but try not to get TOO attached to him just in case (or not any more attached than I already am!).

I know what you mean about being 'useful'. I can see how his feelings might be somewhat real but he may pursue it a little harder thinking that I could be useful, like your bf did with you. I sympathize for them after seeing how people live there, Egypt is much more impoverished that I realized. Part of me doesn't blame people for trying anything they can to get out.

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