Predicament-need help!

Submitted by Lisa (United States), May 9, 2008 at 22:12

Hello.

My boyfriend is from Morocco, and we have been together for a year now. I'm Russian myself (orthodox). Couple of days ago I asked him if his family knew about my existence. He honestly said that they do not. Of course, I like his being honest with me, but at the same time, it makes me wonder, and it surely is not a good sign.

I've invested all myself in this relation, and I'm already picturing our future together. His explanation was that he doesn't share his life much with his family, and then added that his brother knows about me. All his family (mom, dad, and three married sisters of his are in Morocco, and he is here with his youngest brother). My boyfriend has been living in the states on his own for 10 years, and I know that he is very close to his mom. I don't buy his story for it would be impossible for me to keep my mouth shut about my boyfriend while talking to my family.

I don't know what to do, should I just talk to him and explain what I feel about it? I'm 34 and I do not have much time just to wait for him while he figures out what he wants in his life. Or it doesn't really matter what I think, and there is only one way out and it is just to break it now before it gets even harder?

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