Trying to convince me

Submitted by Straight_Talk_Luigi (United States), May 10, 2008 at 20:53

We are are not trying to convince you of anything Luigi nor get your attention - you flatter yourself on both points.

WE??? Who's we?? Do you speak for others now, too? Or maybe ISIS is another username for one of the women on here who defends their man?

So, then, why are you on here? If you don't want my attention, why don't you criticize advice given by yasemin or sara? It's pretty much the same, save for the view on Islam.

I consider that both Christine and I are trying to get the message across that your responses on this forum are neither informed or helpful in any way.

Aside from a laundry hardship, Christine has only every said "I love my Moroccan man and I'm excited to see him." How is that any form of advice? As for your posts, well the both of you only come out when I say to someone "this isn't for real." It's almost as if you are so offended unless I bless every relationship there ever was with a Middle Eastern man.

You're chief concern is clearly the reputation of your man's ethnic group. With that bias in mind, are you yourself really fit to be giving advice to people in vulernable state of mind? You ALWAYS overlook when I say: If ALL Muslim men were idiots, they wouldn't be the driving force in population growth! Its just they treat Westerners as outsiders and vice-versa!

That is the truth, and I'm sorry that we live in society that tries and hides it. I can't do anything about that, but maybe, just maybe, I can spare some pain for a few people at least.

You are an angry man with a big chip on your shoulder who has never had a relationship with a Muslim man nor visited the middle east nor got off your bum to meet anyone who is not white and doesn't speak english.

LOL...well, finding a Muslim man would be pretty hard for me because many Muslim nations shun homosexuality and even hang them, and well, there's the issue that I'm not gay, quite frankly. And even if I were, you would just argue that it's "not the same" as a straight relationship.

You seem to pretend to know a lot about me, and I take it you assume I am white because I post under an Italian name? You're not the first one to make that mistake, Isis.

I am actually multi-ethnic, and grew up near an Indian Reservation in the USA. My family lives on four different continents. I've actually traveled traveled quite a bit, Isis, and I actually have friends, all women, living in Morocco. They are extremely beautiful, no question, and I can understand how women on here are attracted to men of the same ethnicity, but it takes more than that to make a relationship.

I myself speak both English and German, and many of my family know Spanish and Latin as a second language.

Because, Isis, I know the game of scammers. As I've said before, I've not only been in these ridiculous on-line relationships, I've investigated them.

On-line or phone relationships are flawed by their very nature. They take away key components of natural communication by time-delays, inability to read body language, eyes and faces, and most important of all: Tactile contact. Without this, small babies don't even survive, and adults fall into despair and depression beyond description.

That is what the science says. Often times, Isis, the truth can be hurtful in the short term, but lies and deceit will always carry a heavier price.

We are complex beings who communicate

Take your posts, for example.

This the second time you've decried me as angry American with a chip on his shoulder. I don't get all that worked up over on-line posts. And if you do, as I can see your frustration mounting, and it seems to me that you are the one who is upset.

Why can't you just accept that fact that most, if not all, the relationships on here aren't for real? You don't have to be scammed for a visa or cash for a relationship to fail. You're not going to find all those success stories here, because it's about cross-cultural dating. Most of the successful relationships in the middle east, like everywhere else, happen between people of the same culture. Honestly, ever single census record I have ever seen proves that beyond a doubt.

The posts on this blog are nothing new at all, even yours or any one else who defends their man or asks for advice. I've been doing this for a long time, and I see the same patterns over and over and over.

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