Met an Egyptian man....seeking any advice

Submitted by Chon (United States), May 11, 2008 at 01:16

Hi Kelly,

One month ago I met an Egyptian man who was on vacation here in the states. His brother and sister in law live at the same apartment complex I do. It was love at first sight. I'm not talking just the physical attraction but the connection we have. We both felt like we had met before. We instantly connected. He was here for a month and we spent the last 3 weeks of it together. It was magical. He asked me to come to Doha, Qatar to see him. He has been there for a few years now. He is an architect there and was also in the Asian Olympics on 2006 and will be in the 2010 olympics. He has been back in Doha a little over 1 week now. He has been in constant contact with me since his return. Currently he is researching to get me a ticket to come there mid June.

The plan is for me to come visit for about 25 days. He wants me to stay there permanently with him. should I be able to accept his culture and the way of life there as it is very different from the US. We have had many conversations about our feelings, religion, his thoughts on the treatment and respect of females and marriage. Maybe even more than I can remember at the moment.

Just last night he said that should I decide to stay in Doha with him, that we would get married. I told him the only way I would stay would be if we were planning at some point to get married. He is currently looking for an apt next to his so it appears I have my own place since we cannot legally live together. However, he did tell me that he would be staying with me as the only way for us to know if we can truly cohabitat would be to do it but he would have the other residence in case someone said anything.

I trust this man with my life. My friends and his brother and sister n law who have seen us together say we glow and have something very special. He said he does not believe in marriage or more than one woman and that his parents and grandparents have always been together and he wants that with me. He has not tried to sugarcoat anything. He has told me it's very different there, that people's views are different and that I must see it for myself to decide if I can deal with it. He also told me that we would do everything together and that I would not be left at home alone. And, I would make my own friends but that we would have "our" friends that we would do things with.

I know he has told some of his friends already about me as he has told me on his own that he has...I did not ask him. He also told me that he wants me to meet his family when I come. He thinks they will be there on vacation around the same time.

I feel he has been completely honest with me about everything. I haven't felt like there have been any red flags or deception. He is very popular there and has made many commercials and been in the media due to the team he is on and the Olympics. Therefore, I don't feel like he would be bringing me there unless he truly wants me with him. He has told me over and over he will NOT lie to me and I'm a very important part of his life and wants me with him. He has NOT said that he loves me. He says it's hard for him to express that but that his actions should tell me.

I'm sorry this is so long but I wanted to give you a full scope of what is going on and asking for any advice you may have or if you can think of anything I should ask him that I haven't. Thanks in advance for your help.

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